1st off! Sorry its been a while work has been busyyyy! But lets talk about bridesmaids!!! Bridesmaids are usually your closes friends and or family members, the ones that are down for everything, the ones that support you, the people you love the most. So why do they give their bride such a hard time?
Well lets talk about it! I have seen soo many brides that just want to share their happiness with all of their friends. But what they don’t realize is not everyone on their team is rooting for them. Big bridal parties look so good in pictures but sometimes come with a lot of drama. Sometimes small is better ;). (sometimes)
As women we can’t wait for the day that we will hear those magic words, “Will you marry me”. Once you do, you go full throttle into wedding planning: picking colors, venues and the most important ….asking people to be in your wedding. You’ve asked siblings, family members and BFF’s but now you’re up to about 8 girls. It’s all fun and games until its time to get down to coordinating what everyone’s role will be. There’s so much that goes into planning a wedding so you’d appreciate all the help you can get but when people fall through on their promises and responsibilities what are you to do? KICK THEM OUT THE WEDDING!
Why so quickly you ask? If your maid of honor/bridesmaids are lacking in their duties its because deep down there is some jealousy going on there….or you’re a bridezilla and they don’t want to tolerate your BS.
Not every bridesmaid is hating on their bride, but MOST DO! It typically has nothing to really do with the bride its more so some issues the individual is dealing with. It could be personal issues, insecurities, finances, jealousy….the list could go on. People expect to be at a certain point in their life and when others are randomly accomplishing goals before them it can bring out a very ugly side. It will show people’s true colors and true feelings may come out. You’d be surprised to know how many people are in competition with you when you’re just trying to live your life.
A lot goes in to being a bridesmaid like the cost, their time, their responsibilities and if they’ll benefit by finding a man(LOL). I’ve worked with so many bridesmaids that are jealous their bride is getting married before them, so they find reasons to give her a hard time or make the process difficult. NOW for all the girls that are asked to be a bridesmaid, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAY YES! You are not obligated the be in the wedding!!! If when your friend first ask you and you feel some slight jealousy, BACK AWAY! There are ways for you to communicate to her that you feel more comfortable being a guest, her feelings should not be hurt if anything she’ll respect you for it in the long run.
A bridesmaid should be there for the bride to calm her spirits when the process gets rough, assist in wedding planning and support her decisions. Silence is golden! Remember it is NOT YOUR WEDDING! If your bride wants polka-dots and pink in her wedding you need to be all for it. Opinions do matter however you need to think from her point-of-view, really get an idea of her vision and help her execute it. Not bitch and moan about how ugly and tacky things are. I’ve worked with amazing bridesmaids that have pitched in and purchased the brides dress, paid for things in her wedding, threw her an AWESOME bacherlorette party. It really shows the importance and love in the friendship.
To my brides- Choose wisely who you have in your wedding. AGAIN, large parties look amazing in pictures but are you really going to let these bitches steal your shine?(LOL) Think about who you truly want to share this journey with. If you have to hesitate on who you’re going to pick most likely you shouldn’t pick them….You know they will give you hell, or you know over the years the friendship hasn’t been on that level.
Know when to POLITELY remove someone of of your wedding.
- Lack of communication – It takes 30 seconds or less to text someone. If they are not properly communicating its time to say goodbye!
- If you are scheduling fittings and or get together’s but they are not attending….ADIOS AMIGO! Everyone’s schedule is different however if you guys coordinate a time to meet up and they are still absent, this is not important to them.
- Not fulfilling their responsibilities- If you delegate a job to them and they always find an excuse as to why they didn’t get it done or flat out doesn’t do it…see you later! They are secretly trying to sabotage your big day!
- The most important FINANCES! When your friends accept their role to be in your wedding even with the financial responsibility you guys discuss and suddenly they start acting shady or cheap IMMEDIATELY REMOVE THEM! For one you should always be in communication with the cost of things so there are no surprises. I understand times get hard and life hits us out of no where but when people start acting cheap it means they are no longer interested.
This isn’t only to bash bridesmaids because sometimes brides can turn their friends off from enjoying this process. So if it is that maybe you guys need to sit down and have a chat. Think about what she’s going through, she could be stressed have cold feet, or feel the pressure to make everything perfect. That’s when you step up and help her out and hopefully she’ll calm down. If not than she’s always a BITCH and to save yourself the headache back away!
As always I hope this has helped some of you in your wedding planning! I’m always down to give advice or help you through your journey!